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I know that Thomas doesn’t directly control his merch–that he can make suggestions and approve designs, but that he doesn’t make every single decision on it. I know that there are more average sized people in the world, I know his audience trends young and kids on average tend to be smaller, I know this is the world because of course it is, and it’s nothing new. I don’t blame Thomas.

But dammit, it hurts that the new merch for a series and a brand so based on acceptance and being okay with who you are centered around on a man who has *body image issues* has such a small range of sizes.

Just love getting reminded that for some people being gay is fine, so long as you aren’t fat.

Maybe call me a hypocrit, but he *does* have an XL hoodies and stuff….

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Not. Necessary. At. All. You’re just rubbing salt in the wound that Thuri and anyone else affected is allowed to feel. Also XL doesn’t necessarily mean it fits, body types vary wildly. Stretchy fabric makes things easier, but to drop $95 (sweater + shipping) on a maybe?

You right, you right.

I didn’t mean to talk shit about my friend’s S/O. So I’m sorry.

And I do feel you my fahm, I am myself a disproportional bean (who is dysphoric af most of the time) but I know that I do now everything I can in order to be fit and thinner, so maybe if I can others can too 🤷

I dunno though. Yall do whatever in your life, I get it that you are upset and all, I just wanna tell yall that fatness/thin-ness is one thing that you CAN change in your body, and if you really want it you can do it. Of course do it with a consultation of your doctor and dont hurt yourself inthe process, eat healthy work out and porsue your dreams.

Also, and this is a borderline copyright, if you are so desperate you can just create your own shirt/hoodie/whatever, it may be even cheaper than making a special order.

Again, I am sorry for being rude

If you’re sorry, then learn from it and stop being rude. Don’t give people unasked for medical advice, don’t make assumptions about their situations, and don’t assume you’re the first person in my 38 years of life to tell me I’m fat and that it’s my own fault. Don’t assume I haven’t tried everything I possibly could have, that I haven’t been to my doctor, that I haven’t starved myself, that I haven’t overworked myself, that I haven’t spend every second of every day since I was a CHILD hating myself for how much I weigh, trying to change it, and knowing it meant I was unworthy of success, of love, of any shred of human kindness. Don’t assume you need to say the things I’ve told myself over and over to the point where I don’t think I deserve to eat and regularly have to be begged to do so. Don’t assume you have any right to comment on anyone else’s body or what they think and feel about it.

Just fucking let me be upset that I can’t just be happy and buy a damn sweater.

Okay but here’s the thing though, you said you don’t really blame Thomas but l don’t understand how the line “ for some people being gay is fine, as long as you aren’t fat” could literally be aimed at anyone else. You act like he is personally fat shaming you and doing this on purpose. News flash, he’s not. This man is amazingly accepting and sweet, and I’m sure he’s trying his hardest to have the most sizes possible.

I don’t blame Thomas, and as I said, intellectually I know how hard it is to find merch lines that have a lot of sizes, that this isn’t personal at all, isn’t intended, and is likely something he would’ve avoided if he could have. But human beings operate on multiple levels and emotionally I’m hurt. It sucks–for Thomas as much as for his plus-sized fans–that this is the unintended message choosing a different size range this year sends. This doesn’t make me less of a fan of Thomas, it doesn’t mean I think he set out for this to happen, for this message to be sent. But neither does it mean I have to pretend I’m not hurt when this happens over and over with multiple things I love.

I’ll get over it, I’m not going to love him any less, but I will still reserve the right to talk about how I feel about my own experiences in my own blog.